I'm sorry I didn't reply to your post earlier. I'm Sophia, the moderator here. I can help connect you with services and information. I'm not sure if it existed when you were young, but there are now kids and teen programs for folks in your situation. It's definitely a gap in service, service providers for adult mental illness treatment don't have a mandate to help young people, so they don't ask, and parents and family are reluctant to bring up the kids needs because they are worried about social services apprehending kids for neglect.
I'm so sorry you had to cope on your own all this time. Here are some tools you can consider:
If your mom is still well enough to do this, filling out a ulysses agreement with her might be a good idea. It's basically a crisis plan, spelling out who does what if her health gets bad. Usually it's filled out with the person, her family or supporters and her doctor, so everyone can be on the same page. If you are looking to shift responsibilities, it might be a good way to start the discussion and clarify what you are and are not willing to do going forward for your mom to everyone involved. It also opens the door for her treatment team to plan for when you are not living with your mother. They may look at her as being able to be stable on her own, but not realizing that she is actually not on her own and without you will need additional supports. If she's ill enough to need supported housing, now might be the time to do that. You can expect her and maybe your other family to be a bit resistant to you changing your role in the family, but if you are gentle but firm, that should settle down. Here's a book I've found personally helpful in understanding the process of changing an 'overfunctioning' role in a family: http://harrietlerner.com/pages/dance_of_anger.htm
(pretty much any of her books have this content, and they should be in the local library too.)
She might also need a medication review to make sure she's on what she needs to be, and is taking the correct dose etc...
She might also need to be connected with a mental health clubhouse or other social resource.
The BC Schizophrenia Society (who I work for) has family support coordinators in the lower mainland who can also help you get connected with services. The website also has a lot of good information for families. Here's the coordinator contact info: http://www.bcss.org/category/branches/ http://www.bcss.org/branches/bcss-provi ... tact-list/
Here's the info on Ulysses agreements: http://www.bcss.org/programs/2009/12/ul ... r-support/
and some other good family info: http://www.bcss.org/category/resources/ ... y-members/ http://www.bcss.org/category/resources/ ... y-of-care/ http://www.bcss.org/category/resources/hot-topics/
Sorry again for taking so long to get back to you!